Adoption: That first moment with your child.

http://chinaadoptiontalk.blogspot.com/2010/10/not-always-love-at-first-sight.html

This blog had me in tears this morning.
The comments are even worse.
It is terrifying to know that what is such a beautiful moment for parents is such a terrible moment for the children.
Now what?
How do we learn from this and change the situation to make it easier/ kinder/ gentler for the child?
Argh!
*kicks things*

Just when i feel like i'm prepared for anything that may come up in adoption, something like this is brought up and i wonder if i'll ever be really prepared to parent an adoptive child.
It's so... painful. the whole process. From begining to end it's pain and heartbreak and trauma.

ugh!